If your guy wins…..this is what will happen!

NOTHING… yes I know you’re hanging your hopes on one guy that’s going to make America great again but let me explain something to you America is already great. And since you’re so scared let me help you get a vision of your future if this guy wins.

You will still have to give that fake smile and wave as you pass that nice interacial couple in your neighborhood.

You will still have to stand behind the gay couple at Starbucks.

You will still have that Black woman with more education than you can shake a stick at in a supervisory position in your company.

You will still have a Latino business man move into the house you always dreamed of owning.

You will still have to watch in awe as that gay couple gets married on the beach.

You will still have a national debt that may not be resolved in our lifetime.

You will still have to watch with your lip turned up as young lady in your family has to make a hard choice with her body (and you have no sayso what so ever over her choice. Period).

You will still watch as more people will choose to be true followers of Christ as opposed to hiding behind a label just so they can justify hate speech.

You will still have to watch Black, White, Red, Yellow, LBGT, Jew, Christian, Buddist, Athiest and whoever else come together to make this a more inclusive nation.

You will still have to watch people protest how they see fit.

You will still not make any more money unless you learn to think and do things differently.

You will still have to ponder how it is that you have reached the top of the success ladder only to find out you still have to deal with “those people.”

You will have to sit back and watch your candidate backtrack on everything he said to get your vote because you are nothing but a pawn in his game(but you feel really good right now dont’t cha…lol) and he has a different agenda that does not include you.

You will still have to watch as so called “illegal” immigrants obtain some type of legal status in this country because they are an integral part of what makes America so great.

You will still have to sit back and use a liberal platform (Facebook, Twitter, Youtube etc) to spew your hate because usually scared hate filled people don’t usually create opportunities to bring diverse groups of people together even though they may be good at running a company in some other arena.

You will still have to sit there as someone finally schools you on the root cause of so many issues that plague our urban communites. You will also learn how many rural communities are also dealing with many complex and devastating issues( that are not publicized in the media)

And finally….

You will still have to look in the mirror one day and realize that you are your biggest problem….not “them.”

Btw…. if you never come to that realization it’s okay because there are a lot of people that died ignorant.







Good Morning


Life is good and that is all I have to say!!! I have watched the political climate and the issues facing our country today through the filter of the media and I do not like what I see. However when I look at my real life….ahhhh life is good. Not perfect but awesome, messy, fun, chaotic, challenging, inspiring, tearful, joyful and all around good. I see wonderful  people sharing their energy and lives with others. I see checkers at the grocery store being extra patient with a slightly confused senior. I see a business associate that has a full plate take the time to give me advice. I see a biker dude at Walmart pick up a fallen package for a man that looks nothing like him and the man smiles and says thank you “brother.” I see 2 tired moms at Walmart trying to put party plans together for group of nine girls that have no clue they are going to Disney(hehe). I see Black, White and Latino men building a stadium that hundreds of thousands of people will enjoy….The world I see is beautiful, kind, challenging, sometimes loud and sometimes quiet but always worth it. I see you and you are beautiful and blessed!

Love wins!


Love wins each and every time. It may take a year, a decade or centuries but in the end love wins!!

I am Black, I am a wife, I am a mom, I go to and volunteer at church, I have made mistakes and failed and I am also  successful however one thing I am not is stupid and close minded. I am married to a white man that I fell in love with 13 years ago who happens to be an amazing father and husband. I live in the south and not long ago it was illegal for us to be married.  “People” said that if you allow different races to marry then soon people will be allowed to marry animals(sound familiar). People used all kinds of religious rhetoric to justify their ignorance….it was not justified and the laws changed. Yesterday was a historic day for this country especially for the LBGT community but all in all it was historic for all of us as citizens of the UNITED States of America.

I choose love and I will choose it every time. I don’t belong to a party….I belong to the human race. I love people and I could care less about what concenting adults do in their bedroom. I just really don’t care but I do care when people spread hate, fear and ignorance because they were taught hate, fear and ignorance.

I was not going to post anything about this because I have friends and business associates that I know for a fact are upset and weirded out over the Supreme Court ruling yesterday and I didn’t want to rock the boat of my friendships or business ties but to say nothing is wrong. My voice may not reach many but my silence affects the universe. I am able to love and be married to the man of my dreams because many voices spoke up for me before I was born and kept speaking until things changed. For the people left in the dust of change I will continue to pray for you. For the people that understand that we are not a perfect nation but we want to continue to grow towards being a more UNITED nation I stand with you.

We live in an amazing country. We are not where we want to be but we are not where we use to be.

I love living in a country that is alive, evolving and growing. Just like in the past we will have fights, debates and conflict but in the end, as history has proven, LOVE WINS:)

Back At It!


Ok. I am back at it and on with my social and self accountability:) Egg scramble with kale, peppers, avacado and 21 seasoning salute! Beverage…coffee with almond milk…. I am choosing not to give up coffee because well…… I really like coffee:)

I haven’t wrote in a while….


I haven’t wrote in a while….why?…because I did not have that feeling that inspires me to write.  I am usually inspired to write when I am feeling good, or when I am feeling sad, or when I am feeling powerful,  or when I am feeling frustrated and when I am feeling loved.  What has went through my mind over the last few minutes, as I sit here at the vets with Cody, is that I have felt all these things over the last few months so why haven’t I wrote. This thought brings me back to why did I start to write in the first place.

I started to write because I like helping people.  I have always felt that since I have been through so much that helping and inspiring people helps my journey to not be in vain. In other words if I can help and inspire people then my pains and victories actually have a purpose.  So why stop writing??

I try not to watch the news but it seems the last few months we have been bombarded with hate, violence,  racial issues and lack of concern for others. I must admit that while watching the news and listening to negative commentary that I was going through some wonderful and at times challenging events but it seemed like such miniature events compared to what is going on in the world. This left me with the feeling that it doesn’t matter what I post or write about that it will always be drowned out by negatives. 

Then MY reality kicked in. I am sitting here at the vet with my little Cody.  He is trying to lick my hand to make me rub his belly. My daughters are at a great school  and enjoying their day. I have made some wonderful friends over the years. I have an amazing husband.  The vet is so nice and she really cares about the animals she serves. It is beautiful outside.  I am healthy and I worked out this morning.  Life is good. What I say and what you say matters.  We are the reality. Good always outweighs the bad but because I had inadvertently allowed my brain to pick up on some of the horrible events over the past few months I somehow lost my voice. I love to write….even if I don’t write well or professionally.  I love to write because if someone does see it maybe it will make them think. I love to write because even if no one sees it I am still putting my energy out in the world and that is a pretty cool thing. I have something to say and so do you:) Share your light with the world!  It is a beautiful place.